Self-Confidence
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Self-confidence is very important for personal development.
Without it, it is very difficult to move forward in your projects, in your life and to be happy.
Indeed, self-confidence is worked on and improved on a daily basis.
The process is long but beneficial.
Before defining what self-confidence is, let's first look at its difference from self-esteem.
What is self-confidence?
What does it mean to have self-confidence?:
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To have self-confidence is to believe in one's ability to act effectively. That's why it's hard to act when trust isn't that high. Generally, after one or more deliberate actions that leave us dissatisfied or frustrated, a lack of trust begins to form and reduces our ability to act. It is a vicious circle that can be reversed when we regain confidence in our ability to act.
Is self-confidence innate?
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We all have doubts and complexes that we want to hide.
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To be able to see your own qualities, you must be able to change the way you see yourself.
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It's not an easy or quick job.
Can we regain self-confidence?
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After unsatisfying or frustrating experiences, a lack of confidence begins to form and reduces our ability to act.
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It's a vicious cycle that can be reversed when we regain confidence in our ability to act.
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Self-confidence is one of the 4 elements contributing to developing self-esteem:
1. Self-acceptance: Integrating one's qualities and defects
2. The vision of oneself: it is the way one looks at oneself
3. Self-love: Loving yourself unconditionally
4. Self-confidence: Sense of inner security that allows us to undertake
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The 8 pillars of self-confidence
To reset the counters, today I will talk to you about the 8 pillars of self-confidence. These are ways to build confidence and invite you to work in a way that is kind to yourself and your ability to succeed.
Trust is not innate. We all have doubts and complexes that we want to hide. Because of this, many of us tend to underestimate ourselves compared to others.
You may be afraid to show up, to be challenged, to take the initiative or to achieve your ambitions. If this applies to you, I know you need trust. In order to (finally) see your own qualities, you need to be able to change the way you see yourself. And it's not an easy or quick job.
1. Stop comparing yourself to others - It's the most common error - Comparing yourself to someone is like comparing two unrelated things. - To compare yourself is to deny your own qualities. - Consider yourself unique...because you are.
2. Understand that you are worth as much as others - Your emotions and desires are as precious as those of others. - Don't be afraid to assert your individuality and do what you think is best for you. - Having confidence also means knowing that you are important!
3. Stop striving for perfection - Perfection is very subjective, so other people may not have the same view of perfection. - Achieving perfection takes time and energy, and keeps you from celebrating small victories.
4. Surround yourself only with people who want you well - The environment plays a big role. - When someone tells you 24/7 that you're not good enough, you believe them. - It is the power of those who want to humiliate you or bring you down. - Surround yourself only with people who know you well and who make you happy.
5. No longer afraid of failure - Sometimes you have to realize that failure is an integral part of life and know how to let go. - Basically, it's not a failure per se. - These are all lessons you can learn to grow and overcome your next challenge.
6. Know how to say no - Confidence also includes assertiveness. - Saying no does not mean being aggressive. - You can easily express your desires and feelings without fear of being misunderstood or watched by others.
7. Accept that your body is your ally - Instead of systematically pointing out your faults, also learn to look for your qualities (even if you have a very bad image of them). - You have to understand that taking the time to reconnect with your body will help you move forward.
8. Celebrating all successes, even the smallest - You have to remember all the little things you've done. - Success is never a sudden change. - It is made up of small progress that should be celebrated.
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How to have self-confidence in 5 steps?
To boost self-confidence and reveal the best of yourself, here are some techniques:
Step 1: Believe in your projects and have clear objectives
The first step to gaining confidence is to get things back on track, question yourself deeply and set clear goals:
1. Set a goal for building self-confidence and determine what will make you proud of your actions;
2. Try to imagine and feel the happiness of becoming a confident and satisfied person;
3. Map all your activities, your life and those around you. Try to see what actions you need to take that will help you achieve this goal;
4. Set small goals to move forward step by step. Get rid of what weighs on you.
5. Set short deadlines for each of your actions.
Step 2: Dealing with limiting beliefs
Expressions like "I never get there", "I am a suck man", "I have never been able to get past this point", this is called a limiting belief. It comes from our upbringing, our society, and sometimes our surrounding people. By fighting this form of self-censorship, we can answer the question of how to have self-confidence. Dealing with these limiting beliefs is hard work. To get there, you have to take small steps and gradually gain self-confidence.
Step 3: To move forward step by step
Strengthening confidence means stepping out of your comfort zone, which is very difficult mentally. The goal is to get rid of your limiting beliefs, but you have to do it skillfully. You can define:
• Set ambitious long-term goals.
• Break that goal into smaller steps.
• Break these steps down into very specific tasks to help you move forward step by step. The goal is not to take too much time or too much trouble to get out of this comfort zone.
Step 4: Go after each success
Now, it takes two more fundamental steps to follow before you say you have self-confidence
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Personal evaluation is a very important focus. It's impossible to be confident when you're constantly putting yourself down!
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When you try to step out of your comfort zone and take action, you feel like you are empty, like you are such a pity
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Consider it successful.
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Set a small reward each time you fall.
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Congratulate yourself for achieving your goals.
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Say positive and motivating phrases every morning. It will become a reflex after a few weeks!
Step 5: Surround yourself with the right people
Make sure you're always surrounded by the right people, with the skills you need to progress, or people who appreciate and help you, and especially people who don't make judgment.
Humans are by nature social beings. We are strongly influenced by the people around us and we learn a lot through imitation.
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Science says doing the same thing over and over for 21 days changes the neural connections in your brain, eventually leading you to believe it.
6 games to play with children to help them develop their self-confidence:
Self-confidence is very important for the personal development of your children.
Try the following 6 games to help them build confidence from a young age.
1. The first small step towards success:
Instructions are:
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Imagine something you dream of achieving.
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Think about the first small step to take to engage in the process of success.
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Think about the 2nd small step, then the 3rd, until you get to your victory.
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Express how you feel after this exercise.
2. Once someone you love has said words of encouragement to you :
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Remember a recent situation in which someone you love said words of encouragement to you.
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Close your eyes as long as possible and remember every second of that moment and every pleasant feeling, as if you were reliving it a 2nd time.
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When you open your eyes, express how you feel after this exercise.
3. In the shoes of your hero:
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Imagine yourself in the shoes of a person you admire (hero / heroine, sportsman, artist...).
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Close your eyes and imagine that you are that person.
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Live the moment of glory for which you admire him. React like this person reacted naturally.
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When you open your eyes, express how you feel after this exercise.
4. Appreciate your qualities:
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List 8 of your qualities.
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Shout them on different pieces of paper, put them in a box and mix them up.Ask your friends/family to take 1 piece of paper at random.
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Ask them to read the quality and tell you how that quality makes you unique.
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When you finish, express how you feel after this exercise.
5. The latest success :
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Remember your last achievement or pride (big or small)
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Close your eyes as long as possible and remember every second of that moment and every pleasant feeling, as if you were reliving it a 2nd time.
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When you open your eyes, express how you feel after this exercise.
6. The posture of trust:
Instructions are:
Practice adopting the posture of trust:
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Stand up
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Slightly apart
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To be raised,
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Shoulders back
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Hands on hips or crossed
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Look at people in the eyes
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Smile.
Express how you feel after this exercise.
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